With a Little Help From My Friends

Mike moved out on Saturday leaving me with what felt like a nearly empty apartment. Of course, it wasn’t empty at all, it just needed some serious rearranging. Fortunately, my dear friends Nicola and Victor dropped in Sunday bearing breakfast and flowers and even more importantly, muscle. I needed help moving the birdseye maple credenza out of the office and into the living room where it ably filled the vacuum left by the dearly departed Louis XV settee. The room is barely functional without a sofa but it looks good.

I’ll be moving again myself in a few months, once the dust settles and the dogs have adjusted. For that reason, I won’t be painting or buying draperies, in fact, I’d barely hung a picture because I didn’t want to mark the walls. But a person needs to feel at home, however temporarily, so I’ve gone ahead and arranged a few things.

And wonder of wonders, it’s starting to feel like home again. It’s funny — it’s the same stuff that was in the old house but it feels completely fresh to me what with all the light and space.

I’m going to make an effort to post a little more frequently here on styleNorth, to get my groove back, as it were. Special thanks to Nic and Vic for their timely support and to all you wonderful commenters for the words of kindness and encouragement — it means the world to me.

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Monday, February 22, 2010 by Chris
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28 Comments For This Post

  1. Jill Says:

    Hang in there Chris…most of us have been there and feel your pain!
    It gets better.

  2. Vanessa Says:

    Ditto what Jill said. Sorry to hear about the changes in your personal life but sometimes they can be a blessing too.

  3. David in KC Says:

    Hey Chris, I’m so glad you posted a little something, I’ve been wondering how you were, and hoping things were okay. Or as okay as they can be.


  4. Lois Says:

    Hello dear Chris, gawd, you have been missed. Relationships are NEVER easy…Lois of glad you are back

  5. Anonymous Says:

    If you are reading this, I’m thinking of you and wishing you well. I will always remember the slices of watermelon and loaf you gave me on our first day in our first house. Take care.

  6. jo Says:

    Be gentle and kind to yourself, Chris.

  7. Wanda Says:

    Looks totally lovely, and glad to hear that it’s starting to feel like home. Sending good vibes your well. hahah, i had just made a typing mistake (which I corrected), and said sending good vices your way! That might be good too. Very best.

  8. Anonymous Says:

    7:00am – We’re off to a good start today, got my coffee, am reading a new styleNorth post and there’s another gold medal for Canada! What more could a girl want!
    The space looks great.
    Good to see you back.

  9. Karen Johnston Says:

    That last comment was me. I was so excited about the new post that I forgot to put my name.
    Plus I’ll admit, I was a little excited about Canada’s first ‘ever’ gold medal in ice dancing.

  10. Erica Says:

    I don’t even know you but… big hugs and my heart goes out. Take heart in the fact that you are seriously stylish. My ex left me 8 weeks pregnant with 4 other boys at home, and a house that we’d just started to do a HUGE reno on. Keeping fabulous kept me going. Best. xo Erica

  11. abs Says:

    Hi Chris, Glad to see you back here. I’ve been checking in daily — missing your posts, but also checking to see you’re ok. Hang in there.

  12. Hogtownmike Says:

    Sorry to hear about the turbulence in your personal life — I think we all wish you the best and look forward to reading more posts in the future!

    regards, Mike

  13. Jennifer Says:

    Like others, I don’t know you personally but can empathize.

    Sending you a virtual hug and warm thoughts for your future. Nice to see you back, you have lots of support from your blog world friends!


  14. Magda Says:

    Hope you are well despite all the turmoil. Time and keeping busy helps. Thinking of you. Regards and best wishes. Magda

  15. Matt Says:

    POSITIVE WAVES and vibes for you!!!!!!

  16. Lin Says:

    Apartment looks fab! Great to have you back.


  17. Michelle Says:

    Chris – we miss seeing you and the little ones on H. Trail!

    Sorry to hear about your news – be well. Your place looks awesome! Amazing what you’ve done in such a short time. M, C & L.

  18. RenoGrrl Says:

    Where to start? I am seeing this on Thursday, on a casual check-in. I agree with your lovely commenters that good will come from this, hard as it is for now. Certainly feel for you and how you must be hurting. However, being a woman, I’m pretty practical and what I see in the pictures are the things of yours you (and I!) loved that you got to keep! YAY!
    The orange rug, the brass lamps, the cabinet David in KC loves,things YOU love and treasure. A great collection for a new start – when you are ready. Glad you are taking a few months to enjoy the beautiful space and light. All the best…looking forward to the next post!

  19. RenoGrrl Says:

    PS Erica, want to hear your story someday! We could all learn how to stay fabulous under that kind of stress!

  20. Erica Says:

    I thought I’d check in and see how you were- I was thinking about you.
    Hmmm on staying fabulous… what I mean is putting one foot in front of the other. I have two thoughts on losing love…
    one: (and it’s hard to do) only fret the things you can control. Nothing else is worth the heart ache.
    two: life’s a gift everyday even if it doesn’t go how you think it should. In acknowledging this, someone can take their love but they can’t take the memories, or your strength.
    So keeping fabulous just helps you to walk tall…. and besides, they say, living fabulously is really the best revenge.
    Wishing you the best!

  21. olya Says:

    Chris, I’m so sorry to hear things have went awry. I hope you’re doing well, under the circumstances.

    Give me a shout when you want to do a “better faster stronger” portrait shoot. Having good photos of yourself is always a boon to the self esteem. I have experience in this specific brand of photography :-)

  22. Barb Says:

    A door closes, a window opens. Decorate it and enjoy! All the best.

  23. RenoGrrl Says:

    Erica thanks for the lovely and inspiring words. Barb, loved your short and sweet comment. Chris, hope you are doing well!!! Clearly, we love you.

  24. Victoria @ DesignTies Says:

    Love the eclectic vibe you’ve developed in this space… fun, carefree and totally FAB! Let that positive energy fill you up everday before stepping out into the world, and remember that you get to return to this lovely cocoon at the end of every tough day.
    Victoria @ DesignTies

  25. Wanderluster Says:

    Sorry to hear about your troubles Chris. But you’re right, your place doesn’t look empty. It looks full and vibrant and filled with the promise of new beginnings. You have a lot of support, judging by all these nice comments! Wishing you happier days to follow.

  26. ashlina Says:

    there is nothing like starting over with a redo of your place! love it! you did a great job. looks fantastic! love the brightness of the room.
    i would die for that.


  27. GrungeQueen Says:

    Dear Chris,

    I haven’t visited in a while but it appears we’ve both had recent breakups we’ve shared on our blogs. It must be an emotional time; my thoughts are with you. Your place looks amazing. Fresh start. I did a reorg when I broke up a few weeks ago and it was very liberating. Hope you get your groove back and work it out and share it with your clearly very dedicated readers. Best, Kelly

  28. GrungeQueen Says:

    Correction: WHEN you get your groove back!

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